3 Disempowering Stories You Tell Yourself About Why the Journey Wore Off
I feel a bit hypocritical teaching integration because it’s not something that needs to be understood as much as it needs to be experienced.
Consistently.
I was talking to someone last week who came to House of Wholeness in March, a 4.5 hour masterclass breaking down my entire ecosystem for turning temporary awakening into sustainable, long-term change,
and he was thinking,
“I know all this sh*t. I’m just not doing it”.
Oh, I bet you’re not. 🙊
Because
“If more information was the answer, then we'd all be billionaires with six-pack abs.”
And I know for a fact that at least 3 people that joined The State, my last free masterclass, were brought right back into the medicine state without any substance, just through our guided somatic practice.
And I'd put money on none of them having practised it since.
Not because they didn't want to live in that State more often, but because
“Life got in the way.”
Well yeah, if you don’t get in the way of life getting in the way first 😆
But truly, to integrate awakening you better be awakening yourself more often.
That’s what this work is.
Slapping yourself awake, over and over again so your default habits and patterns don’t take the steering wheel and you end up living the same reality you already are.
“Nothing can hurt you as much as your own mind unguarded” — kinda thing.
So let me debunk 3 of the limiting beliefs that may be blocking your integration:
#1 You’re telling yourself it’s not “realistic” or “sustainable” to feel this much joy, this much presence, this grounded on the day-to-day
(even though my clients are feeling increasingly more like themselves post-journeys than during. So I know that’s possible!)
The reality is, you're just not practising feeling differently.
❌ Not reading about trauma.
❌ Not watching how-to videos.
All of that keeps you in the thinking part of your brain.
👉 Healing happens when you switch out of thinking and into a state of being and feeling.
Yes, it’s possible. We are not designed to be thinking 24/7.
Ultimately, we are beings of habit. I.e., we become who we practice being:
So if you practice:
scrolling
dissociating
tending to other’s needs first before you get to do what you deeply want to do
prioritising the urgent and calling it important
that is what you reinforce!
Instead, if you’d practice feeling:
connection to your body, your intuition, your love for yourself
presence
peace
(all of which is why contemplative practice exists!)
Within a few months, you would re-pattern your nervous system in feeling these as your baseline!
Which leads me to:
#2 You think the medicine "wore off".
But let me remind you that the feeling was in your body. Not in the medicine.
Anything that you don't practise wears off.
You don't go to the gym for six weeks, get strong, and stay strong forever. You lose it in a couple of months of not lifting.
You don't become fluent in a language and keep it without speaking it. Ask anyone who used to speak fluently and cannot even remember the basics after years of not using it.
Nobody meditates for a month and locks in inner peace for a lifetime. It's a practice and, as Jack Kornfield put it, "one moment of awakening after another".
👉 So why do we expect one ceremony to permanently rewire decades of conditioning?
We don't call it "the gym wearing off." We call it not going to the gym.
#3 You expect to feel motivated to do it.
No one’s motivated.
Motivation gets regenerated through:
accountability
a system that keeps you plugged in and doing the work whether you feel like it or not
and taking aligned action (that’s why in The Incubator we have an entire module on Consistency in Action and Translating a Vision into a 6-Step Action Plan)
As some wise man said,
Motivation is like bathing, it is recommended daily.
(That's hopefully my last quote of the day.)
So it's not a motivation problem. It's a structure problem. And that’s easy to fix (it’s kind of what I do for a living: training people to embody awakening in daily life 💛)
