What 12 Years of Seeking Taught Me About Growth
A publisher reached out to me on LinkedIn, read my bio and pitched a book with the subtitle: ‘One Woman’s Global Search for Consciousness, Healing, and What It Means to Be Fully Alive.’
I’ve always sensed there must be more to life than this. And when my psychology degree didn’t teach me much about the psyche (truly, false advertising!), I learned in meditation what many learn on psychedelics:
we have the book written within us, all we gotta do is read it.
I never understood why many are interested in inhabiting different planets.
For me, there’s an entire universe within our own bodies. Some call it energy, others consciousness.
Ultimately, we often try to explain things that are only meant to be experienced.
And so, I sought to experience them.
I learnt the power of intention in 2016, while drowning in anxiety and sat on my bed to meditate “UNTIL I feel something.”
For the first time in my life, past and future disappeared, thoughts quietened and all there was was tears of gratitude for having awoken to the fact that I’m alive in a world that’s constantly alive and why would I waste an hour?
I went to India (obviously 💁🏼♀️) to explore that state more. Almost by accident, I found yoga. Time dissolved. I was just here, now, and here and now could not get any better.
My entire 20s have been curated around experiences that’d reminded me I’m alive.
But the state wouldn’t last. And I’d soon forget.
I’d speak to people I admired and asked to hang out with them, so they’d brainwash me into their beliefs. Whatever they did in life, seemed to have made them happy.
I followed strangers into retreats and workshops that swore were life-changing.
I shifted many beliefs, I rose my standards.
I also got led astray by mentors who cost me years of clarity.
I swore I’d never stop until I found my purpose.
I did.
After 35+ countries across 12 years, multiple mentors, teachers, and truly, a life better than I dreamt of when I was planning to leave my home country to seek astonishment since I was 12, if I had to distill the most important lessons, it’d be:👇
1️⃣ Travel. Be astonished.
Immerse yourself in environments, conversations, relationships, and training that helps you GROW. Be the least qualified person in the room. You can’t change if you don’t interrupt your current patterns. It’s YOUR responsibility to be inspired.
2️⃣ Find your purpose.
By investing (time, money, energy and a lot of belief) in the areas you want to grow into. The skills, interests, passions that have always been calling you.
Your desires have been placed in your heart so that you actualise them.
Don’t feel guilty for wanting what you want!
Once you feel like this passion has helped you enough that you’re called to share, help others through it.
Life feels meaningless without contributing to other’s lives.
💛 Click here to binge-watch House of Purpose, a 2-part masterclass on this very topic, for FREE!
3️⃣ Be around people that make you better at being yourself!
The people in your life make up 95% of who you become, how you think, what you consider possible and impossible, the things you go for (or don't). The fastest way to have a huge jump in your life is to put yourself around people who expand you and learn from those who are further ahead than you, living the life you want to live.
We are wired to seek approval from our peer group. So be around those who challenge you to grow!
🌏 As someone who travels constantly, I know online communities work just as powerfully. If you want to be in a space that normalises this kind of growth, that's exactly what I built inside The Incubator!
My hypothesis: when you immerse yourself in the things that WORK for long enough, you honestly don’t know how good life can get. The sky is not even the limit 🚀
Alexandra in Australia 2024
📌 Pro-tip:
Free is more costly than expensive.
I tried to coach myself for free for YEARS.
It gave a temporary illusion that I was growing while I was wasting time and potential feeling more confused, lost, and beating myself up for my lack of discipline. What works WAY better than discipline is environment. And that mostly means PEOPLE. We’re not wired to grow in isolation. The faster you hire a coach or mentor, the more life you’ll fit into this life. I honestly feel like I’ve grown more since 2023 when I’ve been in long-term coaching masterminds and training (aligned to my purpose) than all the years til then.
P.S.: If you want to be in a space that’s constantly “brainwashing” you into self-belief and giving you the tools, coaching, and community to actualise more of your potential, that’s what The Incubator is for 💛
